Please don't judge me my little one is only 6months old and I was wondering what is a good age to start trying for number 2? I don't want a big age gap and feel while I am in the no-sleep period rather have another one and get it over and done with.
But I would like to know when did you feel ready for number 2 and what do you think a good age gap is?
I think you'll get differing opinions on this one, based on everybody's experience. A mom of a colic baby will probably say that never is a good time!
Sounds like your baby must be fairly manageable, otherwise you wouldn't have thought about another one. I think the important thing is that you and your partner must be able to cope logistically, mentally and financially. Then it doesn't matter what the age gap is. Every baby is a bit of a lucky packet, you may cope, or not. But that's true no matter the age gap, a new baby is always an adjustment.
Personally, I found that my daughter was the most challenging at 18 months. She was completely mobile and going into everything, she needed supervision more than at any other time. I know for a fact that I couldn't have had a new born at the same point in time.
She's turning 3 soon and will have a little baby brother shortly after, being a bit older has its own difficulties, possessiveness, etc. Still, in our situation it's better than having 2 kids under 2, that would've been a disaster in our household
this is a difficult question and you will get very mixed answers as everyone just copes with their own situation. and there are many pro's and con's for both small as well as large gaps.
i fell pregnant when my lb was only 7 months - baby due in Aug - so my 2 boys will only differ 16 months. this pregnancy was a big surprise.
my lb is an exceptionally poor sleeper, so i'm not sure how i am going to cope with 2 small babies that doesn't sleep at night.
but i am extremely excited and cannot wait for baba's arrival.
i think it will be a big challenge but its going to be so much fun as well
me 35, DH 39
TTC #1 since Oct 2012
March 2013 BFP, May 2013 MC at 10 weeks (Blighted Ovum)
6 Aug 2013 BFP, Gerhard gebore 8 April 2014
#2 BFP 3 Jan, Franswa gebore 8 Aug 2015
#3 TTC from Apr 2018
MC Oct 2018
BFP 23 Nov 2018
As the other ladies mentioned , yes there is different answers as everyone is different so are their babies.
I had my 2nd very close after my first.
They are 1y4mths apart....it was a nightmare juggling a toddler and a baby around.
So now they are bigger and I might be considering a 3rd now and my 2nd one is 3 years old, to me that's a perfect age gap.
She is independent at this age.
My son is 5years old now. We initially wanted to start TTC when he was 2 or 3. Circumstances did not allow. Then we decided when he goes to school. He is now in Gr R and going to Gr 1 next year. Hopefully by end of 2016 we will have nr 2.
Age gaps are different for different people. Although we did not want a big age gap like this, we unfortunately could not afford another one at the time. Our curcimstances have changed and we are now able to afford having another one.
So with this topic I would say, each to their own. Do whats best for you and your family!