Wow you are my hero! How much wine got you through? LOL!
I may want to try that. My poor girl seems so much happier sleeping in my room than with her nanny. I find when she sleeps with her nanny she struggles before falling asleep and cries a lot. Where with me its as simple as placing her in her cot and she sleeps. So I think just knowing I'm around makes it okay.
I will have to see with new baby. Hoping he will be a breeze and sleep well.
I agree with Deja - the mattress works wonderfully...
We also started out in our bed, then we would move her to the matress when she is asleep... she would come into our bed during the night but then we would just move her back to the matress...
Slowly we started making her sleep in her own room, and when she wakes from there she comes straight to our room and onto her mattress... some nights we don't even know she is on the mattress until the morning...
They are small for such a little time, don't do the sleep training... I have friends who have done it and the emotional damage is has done to their children means that their children are at play therapy from around 2 already because of abandonment issues...
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My experience is that the eldest wants to be with mom and dad in any case once the baby arrives. It's a HUGE adjustment and being separated from their parents is very traumatizing.
See if you can let her sleep in your own room but keep in mind she may digress back to your room when baby is here.
Can you put a mattress on the floor for her in your room?
I always figure I don't want to sleep alone, why would my kids want to sleep alone? It's such a short amount of time your sleep is disrupted (I do speak from experience, I have three kids in one room. My second woke every hour, eight times a night, for two years).
They eventually start sleeping through. And then normally the next one arrives...
We are also struggling terribly with our 16month old. She goes to sleep peacefully in her own crib and will do a 3-5 hour stretch. Thereafter she will wake and scream and scream until I put her on the breast. No amount of soothing, stroking etc will calm her. We have, through sleep training, simply refused to give the breast at night and she will easily cry and tantrum for 2-2.5 hours. Its awful. So now I just take her to bed when she wakes up and allow her to nurse. She however will thereafter wake every 1 - 2 hours to nurse. I am exhausted! I feel my LO is probably not quite ready to wean completely and still needs that comfort at night. I think your LO must be the same. I feel awful having tried to sleep train her even though it did work for some time, we are back to square one......Good luck xx
It sounds to me like she is just making sure you are still there. She wants the reassurance that she is safe. I think that is totally normal and I would be hesitant to push her by not responding / forcing her to be by herself, as that can backfire horribly and create insecurities in her. If the nanny will be sleeping in the room with her and will be willing to do the reassuring that might work though. It sounds to me like she just wants to know she's safe and not alone.
If the nanny won't be in the room with her, you could start putting her in her own room to nap, but keep her in your room at night, for about a month. Then move her to her room at night, but one of you will have to get up when she wakes just to go and reassure her. I would not recommend the ignore and wait until she goes back to sleep method. Some people do it and it works for them. For me I feel it will fill her with insecurities and make her feel abandoned. That's just my thoughts. So if it's only once a night and if you or your husband are willing to get up to see to her, then I think she would do ok in her own room as long as you go to her and reassure her when she wakes for her 'chat'.
My LO (16months) currently sleeps in our room in her own cot though. We had thought we could let her sleep with her nanny when her brother arrives in July, but we are also considering teaching her to sleep in her own room.
Problem is sometimes she wakes up in the middle of the night and wants to have a chat and she expects a response out of you. If you keep quite she starts crying. So I am scared with no one in the room she will freak out. She thankfully doesn't have a feed in the middle of the night nor does she use a Pacifier.
Do you have any tips or stories to share? Or is she just too young?