We follow a consistent bedtime routine, with our toddler and the baby. For us this is key as it signals to them that it is bedtime and their bodies recognise that sleepy time is nearing and they get tired.
Baby start routine at 6pm:
Bath, PJs, Breastfeed and bed
Toddler start routine at 7pm:
Bath, Brush Teeth, PJs, Story and bed
We put both of them down drowsy, but awake. Sometimes more drowsy than awake , depending on how their day has been.
Our toddler and baby sleep in separate rooms, as I do not want the one waking up the other. We also use white noise.
Baby usually wakes up sometime between 2am and 3am, I will then usually take her into bed with us, feed her and she continues sleeping with us until about 7. Toddler also wakes up around 7.
It is not always easy and we have off days, where things don't go according to plan, but on the whole it works for us.
Consistency is key, I think sleeping with the nanny may be confusing your LO as she does not understand why some nights she gets to sleep with her nanny and other times not.
@ AM,yep they are much easier to control now.
Its just the little attitudes that I have to deal with lol.
But they are very close to each other, and everyone that see's them thinks they are twins cause they dress the same.
My 2 girls are 16 months apart.
My eldest had to grow up very fast to make space for the little one who took all the attention, I actually regret it now as she is growing up too fast and is very independent.
Just don't ever leave them alone.
I went to bath for a few minutes only to find my eldest sitting on top of her sister tapping her to sleep......that was such a scare.
But they need to interact as much as possible otherwise they will be jealous of each other.
Now they are very close even though my 2nd still wants all the attention but she does not get it.
And my eldest tries to mother her....so if I shout at her then she runs to her sister for comfort.
Thought I would add my 2cents too... I have a 30month gap between my two girls... I also have a friend who has an almost 5 year gap, so will be talking from both our experiences...
It is hard, whatever the gap is. I saw with my eldest one that she craved a lot more one on one attention with me. So I would have the nanny look after my youngest while I gave my eldest individual attention. I would fetch her from school and we would have a picnic in the park before heading home... it was hard as I was breastfeeding and only had 2 hours between feeds... then when sleepy time would come - they want mom then too - I would feed the youngest first and let hubby put her to sleep while I went to put the little one to sleep.
My nanny was a BIG help but I did feel that I couldn't devote as much time to my youngest as I did with the oldest when she was a baby... luckily the babies don't remember it but I did make sure I had enough quality time with the youngest before the eldest came home...
What did help a lot too was when I was getting ready to return to work and had to introduce the bottle, that hubby would then give the night bottle and the eldest then had my undivided attention again. My husband is very hands on when he gets home, takes over all the nanny duties. Bath time becomes easier when the little can sit by themselves, cos then they can bath together and one parent can each dress a child.
Its hard but you can make it work with a good support system! And don't sweat the small stuff! Do what works for you...
A camp cot was a big help in our room, that way when the eldest did come over in the night the little one was already in the camp cot so the bed wasn't too cramped...
All the best, and don't worry too much about that age gap! Like I said, my friend has a 5 year gap and her eldest still wants her undivided attention and she too has taken to little picnics after school etc... what did help her is that the baby is bottle fed so her mom or hubby could always give the baby the bottle, and she could bath and put the eldest to bed.
Married: September 2009 - 5 glorious years with my best friend!
First Darling Daughter: July 2010
Second Darling Daughter: January 2013