Okay, some mothers already feel overjoyed by the fact that their baby was successfully brought into this world. But what other people should realise is that there are also mothers who just want their childbirth ordeal to be over since it is painful and exhausting. If something like that happens to you, I suggest you focus on recovering your body from the childbirth but keep on nursing your baby. I am proud of you for trying your best to be a good mom. Keep going even after your child has grown up.
I echo totally what the other moms said. For me personally, looking back I understand that my blues were more than that, and actually post-natal depression. I had most symptoms, but did not have thoughts to harm my baby (which is one of the common symptoms apparently). Because of the lack of having that symptom, I convinced myself I don't have it. It is one of my biggest regrets not getting treatment. I fell pregnant again when my oldest was 8 months, it is only when my body's hormones went to preggy mode again that I started feeling better and realized what a disservice I did myself and my baby.
If you feel unsure whether it is the blues or PND, go and get yourself checked out. PND is not something to be ashamed of, or an indication that you are not a strong enough person.
I understand. I also felt that way when my Lb was born. I loved him completely but is was all so overwhelming that sometimes I just felt like I don't know why I wanted this.
It is a difficult thing being a mom especially if you feel that everyone is watching you and in today's world we are bombarded with what to do and not to do as mothers.
Stop feeling guilty, you are going to wear yourself out. Trust me I know. It does get better not all of us can by that mom on TV that has it all together. In fact I think they are about 'n half percent of moms. Most of us are just trying to get through the day.
I completely understand and know what you are going through. I read everywhere that it will be love at first sight and an instant deep loving connection when your baby is born. When my little one was born I was so exhausted that I could barely hold her and never fell in love with her that second. I was very hard on myself as I just didn't have that love bond with her and thought that something was wrong with me but know she is now 3 months old and I have grown to love her. I sometimes feel like I have missed out on something but everyone is different and it just took me longer to experience those feelings.
Yes been a new mother is difficult and our emotions are all over the place but you are doing a great job been a mommy! Give it some time and if it still doesn't get better talk to someone about it, there is no reason to go through it alone.
* TTC baby #1 for 1.5 years
(tried naturally for 1 year - anovulatory cycles)
(medicated Fertomid cycles for 5 months)
BFP - 1 Sept 2015 - un medicated cycle
TTC baby #2 - October 2017
BFP - 3 January 2018
Hey guys! My baby is about four weeks now . She came a few weeks before her due date. People keep on asking me "isn't it the BEST feeling in the world?".... Honestly I just want to say to those people "no... no it is not"...
I actually feel so disappointed because I have not had that ah-haaa moment where I get overcome with the warm fuzzy. Just saying it makes me feel more guilty and depressed. I obviously love my daughter and would not give her up for anything. It's just that I feel so different than what I expected. Does anyone feel the same? Is it possible blues?