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2 years 1 month ago #279728 by Salemein
Replied by Salemein on topic Due August 2018
Morning ladies

Seems everyone is a bit stressed/emotional?

Only a little while further then hopefully our hormones calm down :pinch:

I'm also not on speaking terms with my mother, she decided not to be in my life when i was 16 weeks with my angel so that's nearly 2 years ago and my life is so much better of. I know it sounds horrible but sometimes its better to let go of the negativity.

So anyway I have a huge rant sorry about it but I have had like 2 break downs in the last 2 weeks.
Anyway my sister started living with us in December 17, she only found a job now end of February which i was very happy about for her (first job). But every since she started working its like she became a baby/has this f-you attitude towards me. On top of the job she also found a boyfriend and now its a 100 times worse.

My eldest sister got married on the 24th and we were her bridal party, but my younger sister made the day about herself and its at the wedding that i really just reached my braking point, she was more worried about her hair and makeup than making sure my big sis was happy so me 25 weeks pregnant had to run around the whole day which i don't mind because its my sis's big day but why have 2 braids maids and the other just doesn't give a f? Then the boyfriend arrived at the wedding and he was sitting there with us while we took bride/bridesmaid photos, my younger sisters attention was only with him and she kept running to him instead of staying put for the next photo. After the ceremony it was pretty much the same but i'm sure you get the picture.

So the Monday after the wedding I take her to work, I tell her to grab my house key lock and meet me the car, I drop her of get back home and guess what, she locked with her key and took it to work with her so now I'm locked out of my own house. My parents in law stays in the flat in our yard so I went to my MIL and had my first breakdown.

After that i just ignored my sister. She went to the boyfriend for Easter weekend which was so nice for me because we had some just our time. But then she came back and shes all baby again. She has to help with food/electricity/water money so I tell her to set up her internet banking so she can EFT me the money. My UIF and provident has not been paid yet so I can not buy groceries and the cupboards are empty so I really need this money from her. So yesterday she has to activate the online banking at the ATM so my FIL takes her, she gets her pin incorrect 3 times so now guess who has to take her to the branch on Saturday and has to buy food on credit. She then washed the dishes which is nice but I told her that to save water we will only wash once a day and I had already washed that day so once again she just didn't listen to me.

After that I broke down again, with the stress she is adding and the money I actually for a split second thought that maybe now is the wrong time to have Eliana. So ja that really killed me that I for so long prayed for my rainbow and my sisters actions made me regret becoming pregnant and now I'm all over scared that my thoughts is going to cause me to lose another baby because how can I have her if I'm thinking stuff like that about her.

She is quite today and that does not help with all of this. I just wish the retrenchment didn't happen and that I can slap my sister. I cant even tell her to move out because there is now where ells for her to go and then I feel like a huge ass. My husband actually said last night that this is it if she doesn't start thinking/listening then she has to go so now I feel like I have to protect her as well.

I'm just so tired of being stressed, having my next scan on the 9th at exactly 28 weeks. Praying that she will still be healthy because no matter what i felt in that split second, my Elia is not a mistake or unwanted.

Me: 25
Hubby: 28

March 2016: BFP
November 2016: Baby Boy born sleeping
11/11/2016
Normal Birth (38 weeks)
2.765kg 48cm

TTC
05/05/17 - Doctor found cysts, on Nordette for 2 cycles
04/07/17 - cysts has cleared, starting with clomid the 12th on CD5-CD9
07/08/17 - AF showed up. Taking a break
11/10/17 - Positive ovulation test
22/10/17 - Natural BFP at 11 DPO

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2 years 1 month ago #279730 by CarienM
Replied by CarienM on topic Due August 2018
@Sparky - totally get the big heart. I also always try to see the better in ppl. And like I always tell my husband, she will always be my mother, and I think it's an inherent daughter thing that we will always seek their approval. I have come to the point where I know I will most likely not get it, but it doesn't change that I will always seek it. We saw my mother weekend before last and she said to me that she wants to have a baby shower for me (nice thought right??) at the end of April/begining of May, and (get this) I can invite 3 friends...I was like...thanks...I think? I am rather surprised that she would invite me to it under those conditions. My mother is also a great example of someone with way too much money for the amount of sense that she has. She works hard and I definitely think she deserves the money she has, but that has become her thing, she throws money at things hoping that they will go away or be quiet or something. Anyway, really hoping our generation of mom's are slightly different from theirs, already seems that way.

@Reese - please disregard if you feel I am out of line, but dont you think you (and your husband for that matter) would benefit from going to talk to someone? When I found out with my last pregnancy that it was a boy I had the most horrible GD and I felt like an ass for feeling that way, but I could not help my feelings (not the same situation as yours, just some context to what I'm saying). My husband found me this lady that I still see now that really helped me so much. She is a social worker in private practice dealing in birth/general mom support and was such a perfect fit for me. We went through some pretty shitty times as a family last year and she was key in helping me sort through the things in my head. Just think that having thearapy should really be mandatory for all people b/c it really helps to talk to a 3rd party that is outside the situation that is able to tell you that you are nuts/acting nuts or that helps you understand why you are feeling things and puts them into perspective for you.

Other thing I forgot to mention to you ladies. So my husband works for Cotton On, so we shop there a lot :) but wanted to tell you about their maternity line they are launching here. Its only in a few stores now but you an find it online. They have lovely sleepwear (its the bamboo cotton so soooooo soft) that has nursing pannels in it, they have a few 'nursing bra-lets' would not really say they can qualify as a full on bra, but maybe something you can wear under jamies or a comfortable t-shirt and they have maternity active wear too. The line is still kind of limited, they are trying it out to see if it goes well. I bought the bra-let and the bamboo jamies but I thought I would mention it to you if you want to check it out :)

Hope everyone is doing well otherwise :)

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2 years 1 month ago #279765 by Reese25
Replied by Reese25 on topic Due August 2018
Morning Ladies,
I really hope you are all doing very well. Our group has gone quiet a bit. Probably all busy with work and life.

I am seeing my doc tomorrow. I will be 25 weeks. I have been struggling with back ache and very bad cramps / contractions. Luckily they are not regular and only happens every now and again. I have also had an increase in discharge. :tmi: Just hoping it's not amniotic fluids. And I am so so tired. I look like a whale even though everyone keeps telling me I look good and healthy for a women carrying twins. ;) So I'm taking that compliment!
Will wait and see what doc says and see if she will be booking me off early. ON the one side I hope she does (just on semi-bedrest) but on the other hand I still have so much to do at work and we haven't found a temp yet for my position. :S

We have started painting the nursery over the weekend. We will probably finish it this Saturday. I think it's going to look nice. I will post some pics afterwards. Got the cutest little vests from my cousin in UK saying: "If you think I'm cute, you should see my twin!" Really adorable.

So we have decided on names... Rebecca and Mikayla. Rebecca means "Servant of God" and "One who binds and joins together." Mikayla means "Gift from God"

Have an amazing Tuesday!

Me: 31
DH: 33
DD1: 7yrs (our beautiful ballerina)
DD2: 3yrs (our little tornado! :-))

BFP - 11DPO - 13/11/2017 - TWINS!!!
Twins due July 2018

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2 years 1 month ago #279766 by Salemein
Replied by Salemein on topic Due August 2018
Morning all

@Reese, you sound so much better today than last week, I'm glad about that and the names they are beautiful and the meanings :heart: , I feel a name meaning is very important, just gives that sense of belonging to me, that's why when we came across the name Eliana and saw it means God has answered we just knew that will be the name if we are having a girl, we actually never decided on a boy name, like we knew we are having a girl and her name was shown to us.

AFM, went for as check up yesterday at exactly 28 weeks and my doctor is very happy. we have a little fatty on her hands haha, in the pic you can see the fat/skin hang over her shoulder. She is still very shy about showing her face but I at least got to see her yawn and put her foot in her mouth. On Sunday we started having hiccups (so cute).

I am now seeing the doctor every 2 weeks so next scan will be on the 23rd of April at 30 weeks.

I hope all you ladies are doing great :kiss:

Me: 25
Hubby: 28

March 2016: BFP
November 2016: Baby Boy born sleeping
11/11/2016
Normal Birth (38 weeks)
2.765kg 48cm

TTC
05/05/17 - Doctor found cysts, on Nordette for 2 cycles
04/07/17 - cysts has cleared, starting with clomid the 12th on CD5-CD9
07/08/17 - AF showed up. Taking a break
11/10/17 - Positive ovulation test
22/10/17 - Natural BFP at 11 DPO

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2 years 1 month ago #279767 by Jay-Bee01
Replied by Jay-Bee01 on topic Due August 2018
Hi ladies

Sorry I have been so quiet but work has been really hectic and my 2 year old is keeping me on my toes and soo tired.
How is everyone?

@ Salemein, I remember you from the TTC forum and now you are 28 weeks already. What a cute little photo and a lovely name, I am finding it very difficult to find a name that we just know is the right one. How are the hormones and the preggy niggles?

@ Reece, I remember with my first and now I have a increased discharge and so long that it doesn't burn/itch/smell/bloody I am sure that it is fine. Rebecca is on our list of names for our little one :). I am sure that you look beautiful and healthy and well done for carrying twins as it must be hectic.

AFM, almost 18w and was told at 16w that I have a low placenta and that it should grow higher with baby and if it has not at 20w then I will have to have a c-section as it will cover cervix. Really hoping that at 16w it was normal to be low and will grow and stretch with baby. I am also so tired and my lower back and area under navel is sore. I also have a huge bump definitely bigger than my first and no way of hiding it at all.

How time is flying... who's baby is due first? I am on the 13 Sept

* TTC baby #1 for 1.5 years
(tried naturally for 1 year - anovulatory cycles)
(medicated Fertomid cycles for 5 months)
BFP - 1 Sept 2015 - un medicated cycle
TTC baby #2 - October 2017
BFP - 3 January 2018

TTC baby #3 in 2021

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2 years 1 month ago #279773 by Chanti
Replied by Chanti on topic Due August 2018
Hey ladies,

@carien - It sounds like you had a lovely easter! It really breaks my heart to hear of strained relationships with your moms, sending you and @Sparky some love to get through this and praying for repaired relationships. I had my 20 week scan a while ago, it was amazing! my 24 week one is this friday :)

@Reese - How are you holding up? Your latest post seems a bit happier :) Are you and hubby feeling a little more settled? Those are really beautiful names and have such nice meanings. I love looking at meanings to names before deciding if it can go on the list.

@Sparky - Yay for tomorrow being scan day! The 20 week scan has been my favourite so far! Loved seeing the detail and just watching baby. How is your blood pressure doing? I know we do have lower blood pressure in pregnancy and it gets worse as we progress. Take care of yourself mama xx

@Salemein - It sounds like you have your hands full there with your sister! It doesnt help that you have that strain on top of the retrenchment. You need to make sure your well being is priority at all times and your sister needs to be aware of that too. So if you need to let hubby deal with the tough stuff for you then so be it, but you and Eliana are the priority right now! It really frustrates me when people act useless about the most simple things. Your little one is such a cutie!!! So happy she is doing well :) Yay!!!

@Jay - My doc told me early on that my placenta was low but that its not a concern until 32 weeks as it can still move up until then. Then at my 20week scan the radiographer said my placenta is still partially covering my cervix (enough to cause c sec) but I musnt be concerned as it still has alot of time to move and is way too early to judge... So it baffles me when a doc says that they will decide at 20 weeks if its c sec due to placenta being low when it still has so much time to move as our uterus really starts to grow after that. My placenta has already moved alot since that first time when we spotted that it was so low, so I'm hoping it continues to move but won't fuss about it until 32 weeks when the doc makes his decision. I'm due 3 August :) Measuring 2 days ahead at every scan so could be a tad earlier if baby is on time!

AFM, I hope I covered everyone, I struggle to remember whats happening with everyone if I need to read a few posts... Oops!! Well AFM, been loving my growing (yet still tiny) bump and feeling baby move. I fall more and more in love everyday! Hubby and I are going camping at the beach from Thurs - Mon and really looking forward to that! I absolutely love camping and need to switch off for a bit. I think I will also try to catch that last tan before winter arrives! I have my 24 week scan on Friday, really looking forward to seeing baby again as it has grown so much. We have had very little to buy in terms of baby things as people have given us so much, its been an absolute blessing! I really am so excited about this little life growing inside of me!

Me: 24
DH:25

April 2015: Trying for #1
November 2015: Diagnosed with Stage 4 Endometriosis. Laparascopy to remove chocolate cyst and most of endo. Tubes
blocked and referred for IVF... Visanne prescribed.
Oct 2016 - IVF#1 - BFN
March 2017 - FET - BFN
April 2017 - Surprise BFP!
June 17 -Late M/C 13w4
Aug 17 - Chemical pregnancy M/C 5 weeks
Nov 17- BFP on my birthday! 13DPO BETA 201

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2 years 1 month ago #279776 by Reese25
Replied by Reese25 on topic Due August 2018
@Salemein, some days are better than others. Doc has put me back on my anxiety meds for a while to see if it will help. My anxiety attacks was triggered by my DD2 when I was pregnant with her. So guess it started again now. I also struggled with depression with her. It's such a horrible feeling.
Eliana is such a beautiful name and has a wonderful meaning. Wow, you are already 28 weeks? So happy everything is well with little Eliana. I love chubby babies...they are so adorable.

@Jay-Bee - thank you. I do really feel gigantic, but doc did say that I'm only going to get bigger from now on so I have to prepare myself. As long as they also chubby and healthy and NOT preemies, I'm happy. I agree with Chanti on the placenta position. Don't stress about it too much. There is still time. Up until last week I was so worried because I cannot feel Rebecca move at all because my placenta is in the front. But last night while sleeping, she showed me she was still here. Her movements are very soft whereas her sister, Mikayla is extremely busy and has no problem in kicking the breath out of me.
So I'm sure you will be fine.

@Chanti - Hubby is still not in a good place emotionally. But I think it also has to do with his job. The company he works for is in a bit of trouble and no one is sure how long it will last. Work is so scarce these days. We are seriously considering immigrating.
Like I said above, some days are better than others. We don't talk about the twins much and we are trying to find solutions to the finances etc. He is helping me with the nursery so I think he is trying to deal with it in his own way. It's going to take some time for both of us.
I listen to a lot of Praise and Worship songs these days and its the only way I can get through some days. I struggle to pray, because all I keep asking is why God is giving us 2? and why does it have to both be girls when we have been praying so long and hard for at least 1 boy. I try not to dwell on it too much otherwise the sadness and fear overwhelms me. But today is a good day and I'm taking it as it comes. :-)

Enjoy your camping at the beach! Sounds so good. My camping days are on hold from now on. I am just too uncomfortable now and hubby is saying that he thinks the twins will be born end of May! :ohmy: I'm hoping he is wrong because it is way too early. I'm trying to keep them in until end June.

Me: 31
DH: 33
DD1: 7yrs (our beautiful ballerina)
DD2: 3yrs (our little tornado! :-))

BFP - 11DPO - 13/11/2017 - TWINS!!!
Twins due July 2018

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