I just went through my second miscarriage this year (first in May). Wow, it's a real shock since I fall pregnant easily, and especially since I have two perfect kids already!
Doc reckons I am experiencing very bad luck, but I will see him next week to discuss results of testing from D&C, and what the future holds. Right now I am pretty angry and told everyone I am done and will not try again....but I don't know if I can stay true to that decision in time.
Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation? And if my age really is a factor (35)? Dr says rate of chromosomal defects increases 'at my age' but I didn't think 35 was too old given my history of all going well
Really sorry to hear!!That is an awful feeling that people don't understand!!
I don't think being 35 is really the problem, what I do know is that being older it increase your chances of having multiples later on!! So be prepared!
I had a miscarriage in January and are now pregnant with twins!!
Good luck, and I really hope you have good news soon!!! Keep on trying!!
In answer to your question, and perhaps also for other mommies in a similar situation who might read this thread later, the probability of chromosomal defects only BEGINS to increase noticeably at 30, at 35 the risk of Downs, for instance, is about 1/400, but from there on the risk gets higher, which is why they only start being serious about testing for it at that age. I did some research since my little girl was born when I was 36.
A very good friend of mine had her little girl at 34 and had two consecutive miscarriages after, one of which was due to chromosomal abnormalities (trisomy 18). She went on to have a completely normal pregnancy at 37 and now has a beautiful little boy, with an age gap of about 3 years in between. So it is possible, and, to my knowledge, her gynae at Sandton Medi Clinic did not discourage future pregnancies after the miscarriages.
I am so, so sorry for your loss, you must be heartbroken!
I recently read a book - Its all about the egg by Rebecca Fett. It actually explains why our eggs deteriorate, not because of our age per se, but because we are continually exposed to imitating hormones such as bpa, fragrances etc. i orderd it on bookdepositry.com where you dont pay shipment and waited about 3-4 weeks for it. I can really recommend it. It touches on infertility, miscariage, pcos and first time trying... And what supplements to take that would help you conceive..
I adjusted my lifestyle alot after reading this...
Me: 30 lean pcos
DH: 33 male factor
Ttc since Oct 2011
DH had varicocelectomy Sept 13
Jan - May 14 - Femara =BFN
March 14 - Move to FS
May 14 - Hysteroscopy
June 14 - IUI 5mg Femara = Canceled
July 14 - IUI 5mg Femara, menopur and ovitrelle = BFN
Aug -Sept 14 - IVF with IMSI and ICSI - Hyperstimulated - no transfer.
6 frozen blastocysts
30 Oct 14 transfer 1 5BA blastocyst
6 Nov - 1st Beta 55
8 Nov -2nd beta 130!
We are so thankful