What to excpect when adopting

2 years 8 months ago #280139 by NicolaF
hi ladies

Found this forum and thought I would check in to see if any of you are still active on here and how the adoption process went?!! this is something my husband and I are very serious about doing if our 3rd IUI does'n't work. I don't even know where to start!!! we are based in Cape Town

Hopefully hear back from you :)
Nicola

TTC #1 since March 2016
Me: 36yrs
DH: 38yrs
Endo Warrior
LAP #1 Nov 2010 (London),
LAP #2 Oct 2016 (CPT) - no endo found apparently - AWFUL gynae. Seeking second opinion
LAP #3 Aug 2017 (CPT) - 2nd opinion LAP with endo specialist - severe endo found left side & behind uterus. Removed by excision surgery
7x cycles Fertomid-Unsuccessful (June-Nov 2017, Jan-Feb 2018)
IUI #1 - March 2018 - unsuccessful
IUI #2 - July/August 2018 - unsuccessful
Praying for baby F to join us soon xxx

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8 years 9 months ago #224397 by lblake
Hi,

Thanks for your reply.

We've had our 1st appointment with Procare and we are now actively busy with our paperwork and profile as well.

Very exciting!

I will have a look at trinityheart.co.za thanks.

Good luck with all your paperwork and adoption.

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8 years 9 months ago #223894 by claire_bear
We went through Procare in Wellington. The two ladies that work with the adoptive mothers there are just FANTASTIC!!

You leave there at the end of your process, having gained 2 friends and allies in your journey and feeling like you're part of the Procare Family. :)

FAITH MAKES THINGS POSSIBLE, NOT EASY!

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8 years 9 months ago #223892 by aneligerber
Hallo Lyndall,
We are also going through Procare (Western Cape) and you are welcome to join the Trinity Heart forum (www.trinityheart.co.za).
I am busy with our paperwork and profile and you are welcome to chat and ask questions. Will share as much as I know or have experienced.
Take care and good luck!

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8 years 9 months ago #223471 by lblake
Hi Clair,

My partner and I are starting with the adoption process and have also decided to go the private route. We have a meeting with Procare in a weeks time.
Would you mind telling me who you did your adoption through.

We are very excited after reading a few of the posts on this forum as we really can't wait to have a baby.

Any tips and guidance would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks
Lyndall

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9 years 1 month ago #219262 by claire_bear
Hi.

My pleasure to help other put their minds at ease, by telling my story. We paid just over R20k, BUT it was a private adoption and we paid for all the birth mom's counselling and care and scans etc during pregnancy. It also included psych and court fees, etc. So that figure is total all in all, over the months.

Yes, it often felt like the admin and paperwork and legal stuff was never gonna end, but once that is over with the process feels like it flies past (at least it did for us) ;)

Honestly I think my hubby bonded with her eariler than I did. We stayed with my parents for the first 3 days, and on the third and fourth day, I went through SERIOUS baby blues (which I thought was pregnancy related, but obviously not) :S

After the first week, she was my baby and has been my baby girl ever since! :) Although I must say it was amazing how she took to me IMMEDIATELY, it seemed like she loved me from the get go, like she knew she was meant to be mine.... which probably made me feel even more guilty about the baby blues I went through.

It is not all flowers and roses in the beginning, but take it easy, give yourself a break and know that those feelings are NORMAL for any new mom... and they too will pass! :)

FAITH MAKES THINGS POSSIBLE, NOT EASY!

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9 years 1 month ago #219222 by Hopeful
Hi Claire,

Thank you so much for the reply on the below. That is amazing and a big congratulations on your little Girl :)

We where at the Phycologist yesterday for a short session and then next week we have the tests. I am not sure as to what this process is going to cost us but up to this point its already around ZAR 6 000.00 so just for interests sake how much did it cost in South Africa.

Myself and my husband are also very excited but very impatiant and just hope for all of the legal stuff to get finished now :blush: but we know at the end of the day it is all worth it.

Can I ask you a very personal question, how was the bonding for you? Was it imediate or was it more of a development like trust every day?

Thank you for the below I really apreciate the feedback :woohoo:

Me: 26
DH: 30 ( Low SA )
TTC #1 since March 2010

IVF ( ICSI ) #1 23 May - 6 Follies
29 May - ER 6 eggies, 4 good size 1 small and 1 premature
30 May - 5 fertilized
03 June - Day 5 Transfer 2 x Blast ( 1 Grade 5 and one Grade 4 )
13 June - Beta Test 116 BFP!!!!!!
First Scan - 1st of July @ 6w3d Only one but we are very excited for our little Broodjie!!!!!
Second Scan - 8th of August @ 11w6d Got the shock of our lives to see not one but two little healthy babies in there!!!!!!!


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