I feel as moms we need to educate ourselves about what is appropriate behaviour for each phase and sometimes may come to realise that our attitudes and understandings may be off target. I really found the following website helpful to understand how these difficult emotions for young ones can be better handled by parents:
My lg turned 2 in May, there really isnt much you can do, I try and ignore her sometimes, but then she screams louder, does the whole kicking and screaming thing etc. Dont worry, its normal lol, at some point it will get easier, so they say haha
I also struggled with this and to be honest trying to talk to them or giving them time out just didn't work for our little boy
He is too young to understand it yet so best that I can say is try distraction, when you see one coming along try and take
his attention away from what is upsetting him.
Always make sure he is not tired or hungry...
Good luck the phase does pass (and yes it comes back again and again)