question-circle Conception after miscarriage / D&C(E)

3 years 7 months ago #272340 by ayesha07
@joo-ste my heart goes out to u....i am afraid of another 3 year struggle ahead of me....it was our 1st born...n i dont think whether its ur 1st or 3rd makes a difference, the pain of losing a baby is the worst and u dont ever move on from it, i still remember the feeling of watching DH taking him away for his burial will forever haunt my dreams

Pregnancy confirmed 11/12/2014

EDD 20 Aug 2015

Preterm delivery 20/04/15
23 weeks

My beautiful babyboy was born at 520gr and lived for 40 minutes

He will always be the angel of my heart

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3 years 7 months ago #272347 by joo~ste
Ayesha
My heart just breaks thinking of you needing to say goodbye to a 23week old baby.
Cannot comprehend what you must be going through.
(knowing how I am feeling having "early losses")

Me:40/DH:39
TTC#1 =3yr2m
TTC#2 =3m
TTC#3 =2yr

Journey started: May 2009 (Gr II Endo)
Total cycles TTC: 64
Clomid/Femara/Inject cycles: 20
IUI: 2
IVF: 1
Lap/Hyst: 4
Miomect: 1
Polipect: 1
D&E: 2
Missed MC: 2
Chem Pg: 4

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3 years 7 months ago #272386 by peanutgogga
hi there

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone.

Keep the faith and stay positive, I know it's VERY hard to do at this point but believe me it will get easier with time :blush:

I know how you feel. We tried to fall pregnant for 5 years and finally I was.
I had 2 miscarriages before we had a successful pregnancy - our son is now almost 3 years old!

At that point I felt lost, I felt like a failure as a woman, I was angry and scared.

My first miscarriage was the hardest, the literally day after we heard his little heart beat it was over, I miscarried on 11 weeks. My second miscarriage was on 9 weeks, not that it was really easier to deal with and accept...

With my 3rd pregnancy the gynecologist put me on progesterone tablets as soon as I found out I was pregnant.

I had bleeding 2 times during my 3rd pregnancy but had no miscarriage.

Just keep on trying and try to stay calm :cheer: :)

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3 years 7 months ago #272390 by AnzelMama12
Talking to you ladies about my loss makes it so much easier to deal with. It is so comforting knowing that there are women who knows exactly what I am going through. We can support, comfort and encourage one another to never give up and to try one more time. Thanks for this opportunity.

It is so obvious that some people don't really understand what we are going through - Just talk to someone who have never lost a baby about your miscarriage... They feel sorry for you, but later wants you to pull up your big girl panties and deal with it, as if nothing really happened. And this is very sad. Someone told me the other day, don't mock a pain you don't know... And that is so, so true.

I got this fantastic revelation the other day. From the Bible, we learn about many women who were barren, but whom God blessed later with a child of your own. Take Hanna, for example. She birthed Samuel. A big man of God. Then take the story of Abraham and Sarah who got pregnant in her nineties! She gave birth to Isaac. And from this same blood line, Jesus was born. How awesome is that?!? This means that from their barren wombs, a blessing and a miracle came forth. In both these instances, the woman struggled to fall pregnant and almost lost hope. Hannah went to pray at the temple and Eli told her she should go home, that she is drunk. But then she explained to him why she is crying and praying, and he told her: May the Lord give you what you ask for. She persisted. And God blessed her. Sarah, on the other hand, already gave up hope. Then God gave her Isaac. Other women in the Bible who also struggled to conceive, but was eventually blessed with a child, include Rebekkah who had Esau and Jacob, Rachel who had Joseph and Benjamin and Elizabeth who gave birth to John the Baptist. So there is hope of a big blessing coming from your struggle. Just don't give up!

Hope you take courage in this knowledge, that God has a bigger, more magnificent plan, not only for you and your hubby, but for your baby who He is going to use mightily.

DH = 31, Low sperm count (15+ mill/ml and morphology (2 > 3%). Me = 28, with regular cycles, and period of 1 to 2 days. Overweight.

July 2014 to March 2016 - *Unsuccessful*
April 2016 - Fertomid 100mg BFP on 17/04/16!!! - Miscarried and D&C on 13/05/2016
May 2016 - Back on the TTC Wagon!

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3 years 7 months ago #272401 by ayesha07
@joo-ste i dont think of your loss as an early loss, you lost your baby and if u were in any way like me, you bonded with your little peanut the moment you knew they were there, its an indescribable feeling

I agree with you anzel, i am glad to have people to talk to, its a year and i feel like i have no1 to turn to my hubby wont understand the deep pain i feel

Pregnancy confirmed 11/12/2014

EDD 20 Aug 2015

Preterm delivery 20/04/15
23 weeks

My beautiful babyboy was born at 520gr and lived for 40 minutes

He will always be the angel of my heart

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3 years 7 months ago #272416 by joo~ste
Ayesha
True - my heart still aches if I think of my MC's.
But, I also know that I would have struggled a lot harder if I carried to 23 weeks and saw our baby and held him/her and then had to say goodbye.

Me:40/DH:39
TTC#1 =3yr2m
TTC#2 =3m
TTC#3 =2yr

Journey started: May 2009 (Gr II Endo)
Total cycles TTC: 64
Clomid/Femara/Inject cycles: 20
IUI: 2
IVF: 1
Lap/Hyst: 4
Miomect: 1
Polipect: 1
D&E: 2
Missed MC: 2
Chem Pg: 4

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1 year 7 months ago #279942 by ThabangKG

peanutgogga wrote: hi there

I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you are not alone.

Keep the faith and stay positive, I know it's VERY hard to do at this point but believe me it will get easier with time :blush:

I know how you feel. We tried to fall pregnant for 5 years and finally I was.
I had 2 miscarriages before we had a successful pregnancy - our son is now almost 3 years old!

At that point I felt lost, I felt like a failure as a woman, I was angry and scared.

My first miscarriage was the hardest, the literally day after we heard his little heart beat it was over, I miscarried on 11 weeks. My second miscarriage was on 9 weeks, not that it was really easier to deal with and accept...

With my 3rd pregnancy the gynecologist put me on progesterone tablets as soon as I found out I was pregnant.

I had bleeding 2 times during my 3rd pregnancy but had no miscarriage.

Just keep on trying and try to stay calm :cheer: :)

There is light for every woman at the end of the tunnel. I'm inspired.lll keep trying.
Thanks for sharing. Deeply sorry for the losses and happy that God finally answered.

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