file Two miscarriages in a row!

5 years 4 months ago #250897 by 2Boys
Two miscarriages in a row! was created by 2Boys
Hi ladies

I just went through my second miscarriage this year (first in May). Wow, it's a real shock since I fall pregnant easily, and especially since I have two perfect kids already!

Doc reckons I am experiencing very bad luck, but I will see him next week to discuss results of testing from D&C, and what the future holds. Right now I am pretty angry and told everyone I am done and will not try again....but I don't know if I can stay true to that decision in time.

Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation? And if my age really is a factor (35)? Dr says rate of chromosomal defects increases 'at my age' but I didn't think 35 was too old given my history of all going well

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5 years 4 months ago #250903 by Nadia
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Sorry for your loss. Allow yourself time to grieve before making any long term decisions.

My aunt suffered multiple miscarriages and went on to have 2 healthy kids so unfortunately does happen but doesn't mean you won't go on to have more healthy kids.

Wishing you strength'

Mom to a gorgeous boy (4yrs) and due with number 2 in January 2015

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5 years 4 months ago #250906 by hantielab
Really sorry to hear!!That is an awful feeling that people don't understand!!
I don't think being 35 is really the problem, what I do know is that being older it increase your chances of having multiples later on!! So be prepared!

I had a miscarriage in January and are now pregnant with twins!!

Good luck, and I really hope you have good news soon!!! Keep on trying!!

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5 years 4 months ago #250908 by DieSwartKat
Hi 2Boys,

I don't have any experience with what you are going through, just wanted to send you lots of hugs and a bit of virtual support for this difficult time.

I'm a working mom and I come across women on a regular basis who fall pregnant in their thirties (mid-thirties and even later), because career came first for them. It's quite common these days.

And listen, if John Travolta's wife can do it at 47, then you can do it at 35!

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5 years 4 months ago #250911 by Clueless
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Hi!

Very very sorry for your loss!!

In answer to your question, and perhaps also for other mommies in a similar situation who might read this thread later, the probability of chromosomal defects only BEGINS to increase noticeably at 30, at 35 the risk of Downs, for instance, is about 1/400, but from there on the risk gets higher, which is why they only start being serious about testing for it at that age. I did some research since my little girl was born when I was 36.

A very good friend of mine had her little girl at 34 and had two consecutive miscarriages after, one of which was due to chromosomal abnormalities (trisomy 18). She went on to have a completely normal pregnancy at 37 and now has a beautiful little boy, with an age gap of about 3 years in between. So it is possible, and, to my knowledge, her gynae at Sandton Medi Clinic did not discourage future pregnancies after the miscarriages.

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5 years 4 months ago #250913 by 2Boys
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Thanks everyone for your responses. I know there are no clear answers at this point, and there may never be - but your messages provide a lot of comfort!

I'll post some feedback after seeing my gynae again next Tuesday

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5 years 4 months ago #250923 by Tinktinkie
Hi 2boys,

I am so, so sorry for your loss, you must be heartbroken!

I recently read a book - Its all about the egg by Rebecca Fett. It actually explains why our eggs deteriorate, not because of our age per se, but because we are continually exposed to imitating hormones such as bpa, fragrances :heart: etc. i orderd it on bookdepositry.com where you dont pay shipment and waited about 3-4 weeks for it. I can really recommend it. It touches on infertility, miscariage, pcos and first time trying... And what supplements to take that would help you conceive..

I adjusted my lifestyle alot after reading this...

:heart:

Me: 30 lean pcos
DH: 33 male factor
Married 7yrs

Ttc since Oct 2011

DH had varicocelectomy Sept 13
Jan - May 14 - Femara =BFN
March 14 - Move to FS
May 14 - Hysteroscopy
June 14 - IUI 5mg Femara = Canceled
July 14 - IUI 5mg Femara, menopur and ovitrelle = BFN
Aug -Sept 14 - IVF with IMSI and ICSI - Hyperstimulated - no transfer.
6 frozen blastocysts
30 Oct 14 transfer 1 5BA blastocyst
6 Nov - 1st Beta 55
8 Nov -2nd beta 130!
We are so thankful

Daughter born at 33 weeks

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